People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. If your friends are not changing, it could mean you’re not developing as a person.

Good relationships bring so much value to our lives. But choosing the right people, and then keeping those friendships, takes some effort. In order to get this right, it’s important to have realistic expectations of each other and the relationship between you.

For instance, if one person wants to be a casual friend and the other one wants to be BFFs from day one, it isn’t going to work. My advice is to build relationships slowly and naturally, be honest, and never pretend to be someone you’re not.

A very important understanding in any relationships is that it doesn’t have to go beyond a certain point. Either of you can put the brakes on at any stage and that’s perfectly okay.
It is also a good idea to seek friends with common morals. It’s great for your own character to be around someone with higher morals, but if you’re the one with higher morals don’t kid yourself it’s easy to lift your friend’s game. Chances are your morals will start to slip too, so you’ll need to be a super strong person to remain on the higher ground!

Lastly, bear this wise old phrase in mind: people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It’s good to grow out of some of your old friendships and into new ones- everyone matures at a different rate. Read more about this in Making It On my Own; 52 Smart Ways to Smash It in the Real World. Buy the e-book or paper copy here.